While people are busy earning money or thinking about getting decent jobs, are they forgetting love in the process?
Love is a four lettered word but only some get to feel the abbreviation of it.
What is love? Love can be defined as an intense feeling of affection with no limits or conditions for a person. Everyone teaches us about love, but no one tells us what happens when that love disappears into thin air and leaves us heartbroken. We start self doubting ourselves. It must have been my fault, I must have done something, maybe I don’t deserve him/her.
A break up might hurt your self esteem, but if you tell yourself you are more independent it counter balances that – Ty Tashiro
Break-ups are stressful. It is no surprise that they are associated with a decrease in psychological well-being. And your well-meaning friends – hoping to protect you from further heartbreak – will warn you not to rush into a new relationship.
When a heartbreak happened I asked myself “Do forevers exist?”. The answer No. Why? Because nothing lasts forever. You cannot be happy forever, you will have an equal share of love, happiness and sorrows. Why do we even say forever when it’s not meant to be. Marriages are breaking, heartbreaks happen often, people are stressed due to making false promises and not being able to fulfill them.
What is this forever love concept? Forever love is built over time. It is only obtainable when you have made a conscious decision to stay in a relationship no matter what. It is when your relationship has a strong bond of trust, and you know that you are determined to continue loving that person no matter what. But does it really exists? Or the bollywood industry has made us to see it that way. Can people be in love forever?
When he left me, I only thought about myself, I only thought how will I ever move on,where did I went wrong, he’s being selfish and heartless. But you know what after some time I realised that I was wrong. I was wrong because I was only thinking about myself. He was right when he said that he cannot commit at an age where he is already burdened with completing his degree, earning a decent job, paying off debts of his father. He was right that he wants to make mistakes and learn from them and a love if its meant to be it will be. I believe in destiny. He was right that if he would have ended it after another five years it would have been more difficult, if he would have cheated on me he would have died of guilt, he wants to come back but after genuinely realising his love and then that love will win against all odds and we would come together with more energy and commitment. He was right it wasn’t an overnight decision for him, he was right that I’ll think bad of him at first but later realize everything. I didn’t understand it then but I do now. I really respect his decision. I don’t hate him but I don’t love him either now.
Our year-long love had its best moments, moments of love and laughter. We also had our share of fights and our sweet gestures for each other. Our day started with each other and ended smiling with each other. I don’t have any regrets and feelings of self doubt now. I cherish what we had and remember the good times. I love myself and that’s the most important thing you got to have for moving on. Trust me.
A lesson of self love :
Be brave enough to take off the masks you wear out there and get to know who you are underneath. Say to yourself I love myself the way I am, I love my body. Be vulnerable enough to accept your flaws and know that they are what make you human; they are what make you real. Be confident enough to accept and cherish your strengths. Don’t minimize them or hide them.. They are your beautiful gifts to share with the world. Be brave enough to say, you know what, all of this is who I am. I make so many mistakes. I can be forgetful, I am messy. But… I am doing my best with what I’ve got. And I am so proud of that. I am so proud of me. And I am proud of who I am becoming.
I’m sure many of you must have experienced a heartbreak or an emotional breakdown.
Remember : Everything happens for a reason.
I hope I could manage to cross your minds. I’m glad if I could help someone out there feeling low.
I’m eager to know your experiences and your concept on forevers.